Who are you living your life for?

Breaking free from social bondage and embracing your souls calling.

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We all have one miraculous life. If you’re not living this marvellous life according to your blueprint and your hearts desire, then whose life are you living?

In so many small ways we let go of who we are and what we desire to please another or to be accepted. We all have a unique expression that we are here to bring into this life a blueprint, yet there seems to be an epidemic of people not knowing how to connect with their purpose and not knowing what is right for them. Depression and anxiety are some of the symptoms of a life displaced.

There is something that happens in our childhood that turns people away from the voice of the soul.

Growing up our authorities and caregivers imposed their version of life and how things are supposed to be onto us. In varying degrees little by little we learned to oppose the gentle, joyful inner voice for one that was more likely to get us acknowledgment or praise or in the very least keep us out of trouble.

Punishment and reward are inflicted on children as a way to modify and control behaviour but they often lead to a disconnect of what is innately trying to be expressed in the being. A lifetime of this and a person doesn’t know what they truly want and who they are.

At some point most people will meet a conflict within themselves where life doesn’t feel good when they’re doing what they’ve been conditioned to do. It may feel mundane or lack the juice that they so desperately want to feel but also it doesn’t feel good when they’re moving away from the conditioning either. It feels isolating and often terrifying to go against what is ‘the right thing to do’.

Let’s say your career was something you were guided to do by another, perhaps a parent that knew better? In a lot of cases young people may not know what direction they want to go in and they end up going down the path they were directed to. If that career doesn’t align with the soul or if that path has ended, there will be a deep dissatisfaction that can arise to call them out. This path can feel terrifying because of many reasons, one being that we have to let go of the identity of that role. It can feel like a death in many ways.